A 2nd Visit to Shanghai

When I left Shanghai 2 weeks ago…Echo’s mother was telling me to come back soon – cos she can then bring me to the outskirt of Shanghai for some real sight-seeing. She never expected me to be back so soon… I came back to Shanghai exactly 17 days later – to many ones’ surprise.

Joanne and I took this lonely (and last-minute) trip to Shanghai last Sat. Things are really moving very fast for me this season. Since Jan, there have been many major developments – My design agency has just broken a couple of "peaks" – in terms of sales, port folio and business partnerships. Before we can cope with the new demands, I was invited to Shanghai (48-hour notice) for another "big move". So, here am I, in Summit Apartments, typing this blog.
 
Unlike the last Shanghai trip, my schedule was crazily packed this time – I didn’t even have the time to do daily travel-blog or senseless shopping. Poor Joanne and Echo, I have to leave them alone for 2 days while I got busy with my own stuffs.. I feel bad for Joanne cos’ this is her first trip to Shanghai and I hardly have the time to show her around… (Nevermind, the cold weather took care of her mood. She just enjoy seeing "smoke" coming out of her mouth!)
 

Nevertheless, this is a very special trip for me. Cos’ this may be the trip when I am going to make the turning point of my life. (For those who are really close to me, you will understand what I am saying here.) In the next 1-2 weeks, I will be planning a new extension of my path.
 
For Joanne, she fell in love with Shanghai. For me, Shanghai has just courted me.

Turning Points in Life

I have been blessed with a smooth and charmed life. For the past 31 years, I have been fitting into the right places. Despite the many bumps in my life, I never really got stuck in a spot. In fact, I have been lucky. I have good friends, mentors and loved ones to get me out of the dumps.
 
Life is full of turning points. Many times, unexpected circumstances forced one to make a turning point in his life. For me, I chose to make a turn – without external influence or due to any circumstances.
 
I like to take risk. I like an adventure. I often define my own path, defying the system. No, I am not a rebel or being indifferent. I just want to take a walk of my own – in my own best interests. I never believe age is a guideline for life experience and events. The labour ministry says you retire at 55. The law says you watch RA at 21, intercourse at 16 and smoking at 18. And then, your insurance broker tells you that you are going thru a mid-life crisis at 40. Your entire life may be chartered by your age.
 
I starting defying the "rules" when I was 12. I just dun like the "school postings" arranged by some strangers working at the education ministry. How could some one who doesn’t know your strength post you to schools based on the scores of your PSLE. I remembered I was posted to Bartley Sec (a all-boy school). At the first impression, I disliked the idea of attending a all-boy secondary school. Thus, I told my mum that I wanted to change school. Surprisingly, my mum accepted my decision and went ahead to appeal to the ministry for another posting. I was eventually posted to Dunman Sec.
 
That decision became a turning point in my life. Have I not made that decision, I would have not met my wife. Without her, I wouldn’t be so successful today. At the same time, I met and befriended a group of soulmates who stayed by my side for the past 16 years.
 
I made another turning point when I was 17. After my O’levels, I was posted to Singapore Poly – Architectual course. It was very difficult to enrol into the course as there were more than 2,000 students applying for it. Every intake (annually) was only 80. So, you can say I am lucky to be enlisted into the course.
 
Yet  I shocked everyone in my family when I decided to quit the course (after 2 years). I was ranked 16th in the course and were doing well. I decided I had enough and did not see myself persuing my life in architectual line. I did not want to waste my final year and get an useless diploma. I decided to pack my bag and headed for my national service.
 
That decision sparked my new journey into design field. Have I not made that decision, I won’t be into advertising and multimedia today. Today, I am running a good and established design agency with my friends.
 
In a nutshell, I have made many more "fate-twisting" decisions in my life. I have not regret at all. All these turning points (be it good or bad, stupid or clever) have made me a better person. My mum never set any expectation for me. Unlike the movies "I no stupid"… I am not required to be the top 3 students in my class. My mum just want me to improve every year – be it in studies, sports or career. I have kept her advice in mind and have been achieving that since 1984.
 
These past 2 years have been smooth and highly satisfying. Come April, I will be making another major "turning point". Hopefully, it will be a great adventure.

Taking Pride in my Job

I was one of those lucky Singaporeans who really started working even before the lawful age. No, I am not an abused child labour. "Money dun just fall from the sky" my dad told me. "You just need to work to experience the hardship and effort in making money".
 
My childhood jobs
So when I was 12 (during my nov-dec holiday), my dad brought me to his friend’s (who was renting a space in my dad’s warehouse) furniture company to work under an old carpenter as an apprentice. Even though the boss was my dad’s good friend, it was a tough attachment. Waking up at 6:30am daily was no problem (cos that is usually the standard time I had to wake up during my primary school days)…What bothered me was the long hours – I have to coup up at one place – doing the same task over and over again – that boredom was devastating! Surrounded by 30 over adults (mostly Malaysian Chinese in their early 20s), I couldn’t connect with anyone. All of them know I am the landlord’s son and left me alone.
 
Due to my little size and young age, I was not given any exciiting / heavy tasks. For 7 boring weeks, I was tasked to pack screws (for those DIY self-assembled funiture). I was so good at one point that I am able to grab and "feel" the screws – without counting them. It was no easy feat…try grabbing 15 screws in 1 grab without counting them. You know what I mean why I said it was no east feat.
 
That vacation, I earned my 1st dollar… In those days, the boss pays the workers every week in cash. I was paid $12/day… So, you can imagine me getting $72 for a week of work.. I was so happy that I almost want to quit school and work there. Afterall, the pay was more than my $1/day pocket money.
 
Since then, my dad would exposed me to lots of other vacation jobs. From 12 to 16, I have tried many posts – from clerk to production worker, delivey man to store cleaner. All these were short 1-time vacation job. Every job was a new experience for me.
 
My Waitering Days at Singapore Swimming Club
After my O’levels, Meijie and I took a waitering job at the old Singapore Swimming Club. The manager who interviewed me was a very charming and capable young man. During my 3-month stint there as a waiter, he taught me a lot of "service rules"… Sadly, you dun get to get such service from any waiter in Singapore now. I still remembered most of these rules by heart until today. Often, when I dine with my friends at any Chinese outlet in Singapore, I would tell them about those things I learnt back then as a waiter. Yes, these teachings may not earn me big bucks but I respected the morale behind these "service rules".
 
1) Never serve in between old people and childen
2) Serve the guests first (in this order: Children, old folks, ladies and last men). Never serve the host first. "Ladies first" dun count in such practice. Unless it is just 2 persons – a couple.
3) Never hold your tray directly over the diner’s head or over the table. Just in case food falls off the tray, it will not land up on the diner or onto the table.
4) When taking order, maintain eye-contact at the same level. Dun took down on your customers, bend your knees and keep the same eye-level.
5) Remember your regular customers by their name. Remember what’s his/her favourite dishes and drinks.
6) If your diner asks you to change plate, refill tea cups, you have failed.
7) Never carry the tray with 2 hands. Never place the tray on the table.
8) When the diners are leaving, make sure they are accompanied to the door. Clear their plates after the diners are sent off.
9) Small talk is good. It makes the diner more at home. But dun interupt their conversation.
10) Be alert. Hold the dish if the diners are slow. Dun rush them.
 
It was my first waiter job and my last. Yet, I took a lot of pride in this job. Cos’ I learnt a great deal of serving people. I met all kinds of diners – the rich, the humble, the rude, the bossy and the pretty daughters… just too many types of them. I have learnt how to manage their expectations…always looking out for their needs – yet still maintaining privacy for them.
 
Raymond (the manager) was a strict teacher. He would often pulled me one side and corrected me. Over time, I have improved and took pride as a watier – even though it was just a holiday job.
 
When I left Singapore Swimming Club that vacation, I lost contact with the manager. For the past 14 years, I kept his teaching by heart.
 
Last Sat, I threw a welcome dinner for my Canada relatives at my client’s place – Jumbo Seafood RiverWalk.  I was greeted by a very familiar voice. When I turned around, I saw that familiar smile – We finally met each other again – but except this time, I was being served by him. He couldn’t recognised me (as I am just one of the hundreds of part-timers he had trained) but he was glad that I remembered him. Afterall, it has been 14 years.
 
I have grown up to be a small boss running a design house. The whole night, I felt so awkard being served by him. Afterall, he was my trainer back then. I still respected him a lot.
 
Still, it was good meeting an old friend. And it is good meeting him at my good old client’s place. I bet he will make a good manager for Jumbo Seafood. If only the part-timers believe in him and their own jobs.
 
 

Nostalgia

I hate spring cleaning.
 
My uncle and aunt from Canada are in town. Mum called and said they may be visiting my place. Thus, I spent my lazy Saturday and Sunday cleaning up my place. Somehow, I can never complete my spring cleaning. While doing so, I revisited some of those "memories" that I have kept in my storeroom.
 
It has been almost 10-15 years since I last touched them. The old letters, photographs, gifts and diaries… Instead of the planned 2-hour cleanup, I took more than 2 days going through all these mementos.
 
I read some of those letters that my friends sent me, the diaries I wrote and old photographs I shot..I realised there is a big gap between my past and my present. I have changed so much… my character, my personality, my tone and my heart. Somehow, while going thru all these past memories, I started to miss a few loved ones – especially my late granny…I couldn’t help but feeling tears built up in my eyes…recalling her smiles, her voices and the last moments I spent with her before she passed away.
 

The feelings are just so bittersweet… Nostalgia (never felt it for so long)….a mixture of sadness, happiness, sweetness and bitterness. For that moment, I couldn’t pack my room anymore… there are just too many things for me to ponder… I have indeed changed so much… I almost forget about myself as a child, as a teenager and as that young man that granny used to remember.
 
Looking back at my old self and the soul that is breathing inside me right now…I am completely a different person. Time not only aged my looks, it also molded me – my life and my beliefs. I dun know if it is good or bad… Certainly, there was a part of me that isn’t here anymore.
 
Was playing Jay Chou MTV… one of his songs caught my attention and moved me. Really, the gift of life isn’t measured in dollars and cents, title or status… It is what your mind and heart contain at the final second of your journey that matters.

我會發著呆 然後忘記你  
接著緊緊閉上眼 
想著那一天 會有人代替  
讓我不再想念你 

我會發著呆 然後微微笑  
接著緊緊閉上眼 
又想了一遍 妳溫柔的臉  
在我忘記之前    

心理的眼淚 模糊了視線  
我已快看不見

I love spring cleaning.


Back to Norm

Finally, all that excitments, fun and refreshing feelings have gone stale. Life is slowly getting back to norm. The gatherings, shopping nightmares and karaoke session we had at Shanghai are still very fresh on my head. And the thought of working and doing business in Shanghai is so so strong.

There are so much things to do when we came back. Unpacking our bags, sending our winter clothings to the laundry..Next day at work, I have so many clients to catch up – quotations, invoicings etc. Next, Tracy, Joanne and I started our own shopping spree at IT Show… spent about $4500 in total in just 2 days! We bought a digital LED printer (OKI) for Caffeine, a 5-megapixel camera + 300G harddisk for myself, a VIAO laptop for Joanne and a MP3 player for Tracy! (Now, my office room is equipped with all the new IT "blink-blink" gadgets!)
 
Richard and Randy were also away to Bangkok (while we were in Shanghai). So, the whole gang kinda gathered on Friday. Richard bought me a sexy underwear (it is so yucky to be honest!). I feel like wrapping that thing over his head!
 
Sat nannies are back. Meijie, Juli and Duuk came over – watched our Shanghai video / pixs until 3am.  
 
Today is new day..no Monday blues…strange… Mmm.. time to sit up and get work moving. Yah, perhaps, I should start planning another holiday trip this May. I need to take a break from my breaks.

My 20th Companion in 10 Years

Time flies so fast. I have been living with these companions for almost 10 years. Come July 2006, it will be our 10th Anniversary. (I am not talking about my 10-year friendship with my TP friends)
 
Yes, we did exchange rings and it was the rings that brought us together… However, our union couldn’t last long enough. In all, I have broke our contracts and have went through 19 different companions – some from Finland, USA and even Korea. Still, I prefer my Japanese companion.
 
I really can’t move my life without you guys. Yet, it didn’t really hurt when I decided to scrap you away. In fact, I take good care of you companions. Before, I spent a lot putting plastics over you…Now, I am wrapping "condoms" to give that rubbery feel. No matter how heavy or light, fat or slim, grey or colourful, you guys have been the voice of my life.
 
So, this year we celebrate our 10th Anniversary. Motorola, Ericsson, Siemens, Nokia,Samsung and Panasonic – we have indeed came a long way. Back then (in 1996), I was the first in my entire course (in poly) to own a mobile phone. It was you guys who gave me the chance to show off that "geek" in me.
 
I have spent the past 2 hours, searching your old photographs. (See, how sentimental I am …I still remember your names and colours).  Come May 2006, I will invited my 20th companion into our "club". It will be Sony Ericsson P990. I know my loved ones will nag (over my new fling).. but it will be a good attachment for us. Afterall, Sony P990 is a very capable photographer and secretary.
 
I marked and dedicated this 10th Anniversary to a good friend "Gareth Tan". Since Day 1, he has been there, advising me on all the new imports and giving me the reviews. I can’t call him a "handphone mamasan" but he has the best access to all the new foreign imports. Gareth loves his passion so much that he got himself a job with M1. Unlike me, he has more than 20 companions (at least 60). What’s worst, Gareth can be attached with more than 2 companions at the same time.
 
I have lost count the number of rings he had. If he has kept all the 60 phones… he can start his own "Handphone Museum"… Man, Gareth is indeed the "lord of the rings" in our clique.
 

Election Time

The Singapore Election is certainly coming our way.
 
That is the tell-sign in Singapore. The local loves to link all the goodies with the election. For instead, when SMRT decided to open up the "white elephant" MRT station off Seng Kang, there are talks about Election. When our PM Lee annouced more goodies over the past 1 month, everyone took that as "Election Sweeteners". Man, aren’t we living in a big urban zoo when there is often a catch for everything? 
 
Certainly, I dun care if there is sweetener or not? Cos’ for the past 2 Elections, I dun get a decent chance to vote. My Marine Parade GRC is so strong that no other opposition dare to challenge it. Of course, even the taxi drivers agreed with me – they would say "It is Lao Goh’s (Senior Goh) area, who dare to come? Sure lose money and time.." So, I experience 2 Election walk-overs with no one contesting for my area.
 
The only rights I have enjoyed being 21 was accessing RA movie and entry to night spots. Yet, I do not have the chance to cast my vote. Dun get me wrong, SM Goh has done a great job for my GRC and I may still vote for him if he is running the Election this time. At the same time, I wanted to see new faces to represent our country. When is the last time we see a strong, sensible, practical, positive and inspiring opposition party?
 
We dun need an opposition to dig up the dirty secrets of politics. We also dun need an opposition to oppose every curret policies that the current government has set. We also dun need emotionally unstable opposition to yell accusations and then got slapped with court charges after the Election.
 
We need a charmer. An inspiring and motivating individual who can do good to the nation. He need not to be empowered to make changes for the entire nation. Just do good within the GRC…and then grow his influence over the minstry and later our country. Win hearts, not command thy faith.
 
It is often sad and disturbing to have this notion that being opposition means you are anti the system. Being opposition has nothing to do with anti-government or rebelling against PAP. Being opposition symbolising a new voice in place – a young face to represent our voices. Grow this character, publicise him. Give him lots of exposures…credit his deeds.
 
So, do we have a candidate? If yes, perhaps he/she can help me push some of these policies:
 
1) Free medical for the old age (55 and above)
It is a real gift to have the ability to heal the old and sick. Medical should be free for those who are old, unemployed and sick. These seniors have been working hard for our nations. We owe them the fruits that we are enjoying today. Can’t we afford to sponsor good doctors and medical facilities for them. Most of these old folks are our parents, uncles and grandparents. Is it true that only the rich can afford to heal themselves – while the poor has to make do with what they can? Medisave is good but can it really cover everyone?
 
No one plans for his/her illness. It is unfortunate enough to be sick…and why let money-matters take more toll on them? Seriously, I dun mind have 3 more casinos if all their proceeds can cover these sick and poor.
 
2) Leave Benefits for Home Maids and Taxi Drivers
Give them a break. At least, offer them official leaves like the rest of us. 7 to 14 days of official leave aren’t too much to ask for.
 
3) Retirement Goodies for the Old
With little CPF and savings… Give our old folks free access to all places of interest… What is the point of working for a nation who doesn’t know how to reward us later?
 
4) Let our daughters do their part too in National Service
We have been sending our sons for National Service. What about our daughters? If everyone has a part to play to protect the nation, why can’t the daughters contribute too? Since there is often a shortage of nurses and staff in the medical industry, let our daughters serve 2 good years in medical sectors. At least, in terms of emergency, our sons can fight and our daughters can heal.
 

A Reason to Celebrate, A Reason to Spend

It may not be just our disposable incomes that keep our retail industry growing. Honestly, I think we should thank the creators of all these festivals, special "days" and other type of holidays. Why? We are talking about big A&P budget, high-spending power – only during the special marked days. Just ignore the basic rules of marketing, look at the spending and buying patterns of our consumers. When there is a reason to celebrate, there is a reason to spend.
 
Every special day seems to take care of a particular business sector. For instance, Valentine Day takes good care of the florists and Christmas + Birthday takes good care of the confectionary shops. Even the Hokkien has a day to take care of the sugercane sellers – "Pai Ti Kong" on the 9th of Chinese New Year. We also have Easter Day takes care of chocolate maker and egg seller and the "Dumpling Day" to take care of the rice and banana leaves seller. The most perculiar and strangest day is the Chinese Hungry Ghost Festivals – this day seems to take care of the "Fake Money Changers" (It is strange but Chinese like to exchange real money with paper hell money – and then burn the money. It is better than those real money changers) and the "incense shops". No matter what day is it, food industry people get to make most money out from these.
 
Maybe there isn’t a real need to celebrate Hungry Ghost Festival. Imagine, people in china in those times could be poor and dying. The leader from Beggar Sect may have thought of this brilliant idea to get the rich to leave cooked food and fruits outside their doors – not for cats and dogs (cos I dun think ancient Chinese are animal-lovers). They use "hungry ghost" as the convincing factor – should there is no food outside the house – the hungry members of the sect will howl like ghosts at night. Then what about the pile burning money – Well, it may be cold in the month of September, the burning pile and candles act as "heater + lightings" for these poor people to dine comfortably in the cold dark open street.  
 
Who knows, maybe the Beggar Sect partnered with the Food Associations back then. A smart con job? No, I would say this is the best marketing scam – in terms of scale (look, we are talking about a national event – not just micro-segements. It can be a worldwide thingy.)
 
While no one likes to hold a wedding dinner during the Ghost Festival, F&B outlets are creating banquets for "Fortune Auctions" dinners instead.
 
So the list of days go – Father’s Day, Children Day, Teacher Day and now Aids Day (to promote safe sex, so sales of condoms increased). When more and more new industry comes into the picture, the society will dream up of new day to celebrate. Remember the golden rule:  When there is a reason to celebrate, there is a reason to spend.
 
Even weather can be such special days. "Rainy Day" means business for some. Look at the number of umbrellas Giordana sell on rainy days. Not to forget the number of red t-shirt they sell on National day.) What about the new fashion collections from Armani every Spring/Summer and Fall?
 
So what’s next? A BestFriend-Day? Or Pet Day? A Ladies Day? How about a Neighbour Day? Mmm…. Oh yes, we have already covered all these days. We call it "The Great Singapore Sale" festival.
 
So, the chinese F&B bosses’ turn is coming to an end after tomorrow (last day if CNY). It will be the "Ang Moh" F&B bosses’ turn (for Valentine). Both celebrate dining in red, one in the prosperity red, the other – the romantic sexy red.
 
Yes…there is never a better day to celebrate. A great day to make money too.
 
 

The Tale of a Lost Umbrella



Things often happened for a reason.
And that reason is able to spin off a series of events that lead to a final conclusion. It is strange how things unfold within your eyes. Here is a tale of a lost umbrella:
 
Twist 1: Dinner at Eunos
I had orginally wanted to host this year CNY at my favourite chinese foodchain, Jumbo. But due to location and convenience, we decided to book our CNY dinner near my house this year.
 
Twist 2: The Evening Rain
It was raining last eveing and I had 2 umbrellas with me. When I arrived at the coffee shop, I was given a table beside a pillar. I decided to lean my 2 umbrellas on the pillar behind my seat.
 
Twist 3: When Felicia Arrived…
Felicia was late for the dinner. When she arrived, she noticed a white umbrella hanging on the pillar above me. She was observing it for a while and she suddenly asked me if that white umbrella looks familiar. I told her no.  I told her that the 2 umbrellas below are from our house.
 
Twist 4: Playing Ping Pong
Dinner ended at 8:30pm. My family went home. As it was still early, I decided to get Meijie to play table-tennis with me (Oh yes, that has just became my 3-minute hobby now). He came at 11pm and we went for our table-tennis session. Man, he was damn good… after winning me 5 matches in a row, he decided to play without his glasses. How insulting he can be!!!
 
Twist 5: After the Game…
By 12:30am, I was dead-beaten and sweaty. Needed some 100-Plus, we decided to walk to the Eunos coffee shop for a drink.
 
Twist 6: Meijie asked…
When we reached the coffee shop, Meijie suddenly remember that he had lost an umbrella at the very same coffee shop 1 week ago. (Last Sat, Meijie, Kalinda and me were having supper at that coffee shop. He left, forgetting his umbrella. )
 
At that moment, I suddenly recalled what Feli has mentioned earlier. I walked to that pillar, took down the white umbrella and walked back to Meijie. "Is this your umbrella?" I asked. 
 
Looking at that umbrella in my hand, he exclaimed  "Hey, how come my umbrella is here?"
 
How Fate Unfolds itself
It is so common to leave your umbrella behind… in a cinema, in a cafe, on a cab, in a friend’s house etc. Most of the time, we never find it back.
 
Looking at how Meijie "reunites" with his favourite japanese umbrella, I just couldn’t smile but amazed with the events leading to that reunion. It took about 6 twists of fateful events for the right people to appear at the right place, asking for the right things. How rare…and fateful. (Who could left the umbrella there for 1 week, untouched, waiting for events to unfold…leading it back its rightful owner?)
 
By the time I reached home last night (after the game and drinks), it was 3am. I remember we shot some family photos at the reunion dinner earlier. Perhaps there is one that captured Meijie’s lost umbrella, i thought.
 
Yes, after browsing the 50-over of digital shots, I found the photo that has that "fateful" umbrella. (See below) The people you see in the photograph are my cousin, aunt and uncle. (That picture was taken at 7pm. The umbrella behind was left untouched until 1am)
 
I wonder if there is a spirit residing inside the umbrella.  Perhaps her name is Xiao Qian.
 

Nothing but a Metal Box

When is the last time you receive a nice, hand-written letter from someone? When is the last time you receive a handmade card from a friend?
 
Dun you hate those sms greetings you received on the eve of a festive holiday? Technology has already provided us the ease to communicate, yet many choose to “mass-blast” a generic greeting for their friends and loved ones. Just how many repeated forwarded messages you receive this Chinese New Year? (I must say I really respect the originator of those creative and catchy sms…but when I have like 10-20 friends sending me that same sms… I got turn off.)
 
Where is the heart? Where is the “human-technology” that Nokia has been pushing years back? Technology provides us the ease of communication, certainly not the laze of interaction.
 
Can’t we afford a 1-minute call to say hi? Can’t we afford spending more time typing in personalized greetings and wishes for that special one that you wish to send? SMS is free, right?
 
Gone were those days when I look forward to open that letterbox at the foot of my block. Everyday, I would be peeking into the letterbox, looking for my own letters – from my penpals (USA, Finland, and Libya), and my overseas cousins (Pakistan, Australia, Canada, Egypt, UK) and endless love notes from my secondary suitors… (haaa…just kidding).
 
Since 12, I have been keeping all those letters in a box. I told my parents that one day, when I am old – like 60, I would take all these letters out and read them. I may be old and senile then; at least, I still have all these written memories to refresh my old, forgetful mind.
 
These days, I really dislike opening that letterbox. I told my wife that it is no longer a letterbox – literally. It is more like a bill box – there is basically nothing but bills and junk direct mailers.
 
I wonder if my child would know how to write a letter. Perhaps he will know how to type an email…but certainly, writing letters may be a thing of the past.. isolated and murdered by our own generation.
 
Good news for my old dad. His stamp collections may really worth a lot of money in 20 years to come. So are his phone-card collections.